Former owner of swingers club explains strict rule which would get members thrown out immediately
September 5, 2025•3 min read
Swingers clubs have always carried a bit of mystery, but one former club owner has pulled back the curtain to explain what really goes on inside—and the one strict rule that got members kicked out immediately.
The ex-owner, who shared their experience on Reddit, explained that while clubs often spark curiosity, they are built around one non-negotiable principle: consent.
“People were occasionally asked to leave,” the former owner wrote. “We had zero tolerance for consent violations. If enthusiastic consent wasn’t given prior to any type of advancement, you were out—regardless of gender or sexuality. No doesn’t mean maybe. No means no.”
The former swingers club has explained the one rule that must not be broken (Getty Stock Photo)
How Swingers Clubs Really Operate
Far from being chaotic, swingers clubs often run like private members-only organizations. According to the post, memberships were required—whether monthly or annually—along with a cover charge at the door.
Clubs typically sustain themselves with alcohol sales, though profit margins aren’t always as big as people might think. Many owners, like this one, worked full-time jobs outside of running the venue.
The former owner took to Reddit (Getty Stock Photo)
To make members feel comfortable, perks such as free towels, blankets, toiletries (like mouthwash and body wipes), and even snacks were provided. “We wanted to make sure everyone felt looked after,” the owner explained.
One of the most common questions the former owner received was what advice they’d give to couples considering their first visit.
Here’s what they suggested:
Talk openly with your partner – Set clear boundaries and be honest about what you’re comfortable with.
Check the club’s consent policy – If one isn’t clearly posted, that’s a red flag.
Don’t feel pressured to participate – Just because you’re there doesn’t mean you have to “play.”
Start small – For your first time, consider staying in the social areas to get a feel for the vibe.
Take it slow – If the atmosphere feels right, maybe the next visit is when you take the next step—but only on your terms.
“My advice to first timers was always: don’t even think about playing the first night. Just observe. Take it slow—there’s no rush,” the ex-owner advised.
The Bottom Line
Swingers clubs may carry a taboo reputation, but according to this former owner, they’re grounded in respect, communication, and—above all—consent.
If you and your partner are curious, the most important thing you can do is talk openly with each other and make sure the environment feels safe and comfortable before taking part.
For more on healthy boundaries and consent, check out Love Is Respect.
Merlin Cummings
Merlin Cummings is a sharp writer with a love for the weird, the viral, and the stories that linger. At ViralSensei, he brings fresh perspectives on internet phenomena and cultural oddities. (viralsensei.com)
